My mom is a woman of grace and grit. A beautiful blend of African roots and American resilience. She immigrated to this country with nothing but hope in her heart and strength in her spirit. And while she didn’t come with much, she brought everything she needed: her values, her laughter, her style and an unwavering work ethic.
Growing up, I watched her move through the world with an elegance that couldn’t be taught, only inherited. She would be ironing clothes in the early morning and cracking a joke by dinner that had the whole house in tears. No matter what life threw at her, she faced it with her head high and a purse that matched her shoes.
She taught me that hard work isn’t just about clocking in and out. It’s about showing up fully, with integrity and pride. I learned from her that style isn’t about what you wear; it’s about how you carry yourself. And most importantly, I learned that being “ladylike” doesn’t mean being quiet or small; it means being strong, wise and knowing when to speak and listen. Her discipline shaped my character. Her love taught me how to love others deeply and without apology.
When I think about the woman I strive to be, I think of her. She’s my reminder that you can be soft and strong. Joyful and focused. Stylish and humble. She’s my mother, and everything I’ve become is what I learned from watching her live
and pour unto my sisters and me.
– Sonia Spencer, senior strategic partnerships coordinator, Madison Metropolitan School District department of engagement, diversity, equity, and inclusion
Read more from our May/June 2025 feature on mother-daughter bonds here.
